Showing posts with label LGBT. Show all posts
Showing posts with label LGBT. Show all posts

Mar 20, 2014

Labels.

Lesbian
Pillow Princess
Bisexual
Stud
Femme

For the longest time I've tried my hardest to find the label that I fit into and I'm starting to learn that I am an individual. There isn't another person on this works exactly like me. Maybe there's no label either, and that's okay. Just be you. 

Jul 2, 2013

HAPPY JULY!!!

First let me say Happy July! The LGBT Community has had such an amazing week, its unbelievable!  DOMA was struct down, along with Prop 8 and our couples are finally being recognized. We are definitely on the way to national acceptance.

Second I wanna say Ive had so many views but still no one comments! Maybe its harder than I think? So lets try this, I have two other ways of talking with readers without them being in the spotlight.

Twitter: ur_superwoman
Ask.fm: DesContess

Ask me questions, give me topics or just drop a line letting me know you follow my blog :-) I wont bite I promise!

Jun 25, 2013

Have you been following the Supreme Court's Cases?

CNN Supreme Court Producer Bill Mears provides five summaries of the biggest cases all to be ruled on before the end of June including the cases on DOMA & Prop. 8. Here's his breakdown:

Defense of Marriage Act: Windsor v. U.S.
ISSUE: Does DOMA violate equal protection guarantees in the Fifth Amendment's due process clause as applied to same-sex couples legally married under the laws of their states?

CASE: Windsor v U.S. - A woman legally married to another woman was forced to assume a bigger tax bill than other married couples because her marriage wasn't recognized.

THE ARGUMENTS: Federal courts have not yet addressed the federal law's other key provision: states that do not allow same-sex marriages cannot be forced to recognize such unions performed in other states. Traditionally, marriages in one jurisdiction are considered valid across the country.

THE OUTCOME: There are many options. The simplest solution would be for the court to dismiss the appeal on standing grounds, or who has a right to bring a case before the court. That would leave the lower courts or the other branches to decide who would defend DOMA. But if the court strikes down the benefits provision -- the only part of DOMA at issue here -- that would create many unanswered questions, especially in those states that currently ban gay marriage.


California ballot measure (Proposition 8): Hollingsworth v. Perry
ISSUE: Does the Constitution's 14th Amendment guarantee of "equal protection" prevents states from defining marriage as being only between one man and one woman?

CASE: The "Prop 8" case, as it has become known, has been down a complicated legal road. California's Supreme Court ruled same-sex marriages were legal in 2008. After the statewide ballot measure banning them passed with 52% of the vote later that year, gay and lesbian marriages were put on hold. Then a federal appeals court in San Francisco ruled the measure unconstitutional. In its split decision, the panel found Proposition 8 "works a meaningful harm to gays and lesbians" by denying their right to civil marriage.

THE ARGUMENTS: California is the only state that accepted, then revoked, same-sex marriage as a legal right. The measure's supporters asked the justices to preserve the will of the voters in this politically charged social issue. Opponents of Prop 8 seek a court-ordered expansion of the "traditional" views of marriage.

THE OUTCOME: With so many options, the simplest one would be to "DIG" it -- dismiss the case as "improvidently granted," meaning the larger constitutional issues would not be settled, at least now. That could throw the case back to the lower courts to sort out the jurisdictional issues and perhaps allow another voter referendum next year on gay marriage. A sweeping ruling on whether same-sex marriage is a fundamental constitutional right seems unlikely.


Click here for the entire article.

Jan 19, 2013

My label.

A lot of people think the LGBT Community is black & white but it really isn't. Theres no easy way to explain it to people which is why I think we hang on to labels so tightly but for most of us no one label truly fits.

For years and years I've tried to find the label that fits me....
Am I a fem or a stud? Depends on the day.
So I'm a stem? I don't really like the unisex look.
Androgynous? I quite like being a woman.
So what am I?

These are only a small percentage of the questions that before would drive me mad but I've finally found a label that is absolutely perfect. Me. I, Desiree, am a me.


Oct 26, 2012

Marriage v Civil Union

GOSH! You guys are a tough crowd! So many views yet no one will comment. Be brave!

Today I had a discussion with a coworker who is thinking of getting married. After listen to his thoughts he asks me if Id ever thought of getting married. I replied, "I would if I could". He asked why I couldn't. I told him gay marriage wasn't legal in Michigan. He says they are in Florida.

Pause. It never dawned on me how little people know about our world so for my straight and ally readers I wanna break it down.

First and foremost, gay marriage is not legal in Florida. Second a marriage and a partnership or civil union are totally different things. When you decide to get married you are seen as husband and wife. These titles hold so much significance. Its a bond to stay together for eternity. Its a symbol of your love to one another. Your no longer recognized as a you but a they.

We don't get that. We are taxed as a couple but we are not wife and wife or husband and husband. We become two "yous" that never reach a plural form. When we have kids theirs one name on the birth certificate. Depending on the state were in our union might not even be recognized.

Its just not the same. Marriage is like the first place trophy, a civil union is the participation ribbon and its not at all based on us. Its some slap in the face by a society that yells at least we gave you something. But its not enough, do you understand?

Put yourself in our shoes..... That lovely wife and those gorgeous kids, the fact that if anything ever happens to you they will still be taken care.... Imagine that was nothing but a dream.... Then tell me you'd still accept it.

Jul 20, 2012

Victory to Service Members

This is one of the biggest victories for LGBT Service members since "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" was deemed unconstitutional. The Pentagon announced last week that it will be allowing service members to march in uniform in a gay pride parade FOR THE FIRST TIME IN U.S. HISTORY. It may be no big deal to you but its a huge deal to me and definitely a beautiful thing

The whole story

Jun 18, 2012

Day 18

Something about the LGBT community you don’t understand or have a question about.

I always ask the same question... Why is the LGBT community so divided and judgmental amongst each other?

Day 17

Your first experience with an LGBT organization or event (Day of Silence, Pride, etc).

Spirit Day was my first LGBT event. For those of you who don't know Spirit Day is a day that everyone wears purple in remembrance of the LGBT youth who've taken their own lives due to bullying or what have you... This particular year we lost a young man like the day before, might have been a couple days. His name was Corey Jackson and I didn't know him personally but I had a ton of friends who knew him and it turned Oakland University's campus upside down. It was a huge tragedy but it was nice to see the support given by other students. The campus was literally painted purple...

Day 16

A picture from your first LGBT relationship or of your first LGBT crush.

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Day 15

Your favorite LGBT quote.


My favorite LGBT quote comes from my little sister Khyrah....

"They say same-sex marriage is a threat to society. But what has 
heterosexual marriage done for us? Did it lower taxes? Did 
the price of gas go down? Did it end the war? Did it end racism, 
sexism, bullying... any of that? No, life goes on, however shitty 
or wonderful it maybe, just as it would if homosexuals could marry."


Follow her on twitter @IAintShitThough. 
A 19 year old activist with a good head on her shoulders far beyond her years... More people should hear what she has to say.

Days 14

Your favorite LGBT song or artist.
 


My favorite LGBT artists are between Rainbow Noise and Goddess & She but Imma Homo by Rainbow Noise has become my all time favorite song. If you didn't know about them I suggest you jump on the movement ASAP. 

Twitter:  @RainbowNoiseEnt


Apr 13, 2012

Stud

An African-American and/or Latina masculine lesbian. Also known as ‘butch’ or ‘aggressive’.

Stem

A person whose gender expression falls somewhere between a stud and a femme.

Queer

1. An umbrella term which embraces a matrix of sexual preferences, orientations, and habits of the not-exclusively- heterosexual-and-monogamous majority. Queer includes lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transpeople, intersex persons, the radical sex communities, and many other sexually transgressive (underworld) explorers. 2. This term is sometimes used as a sexual orientation label instead of ‘bisexual’ as a way of acknowledging that there are more than two genders to be attracted to, or as a way of stating a non-heterosexual orientation without having to state who they are attracted to. 3. A reclaimed word that was formerly used solely as a slur but that has been semantically overturned by members of the maligned group, who use it as a term of defiant pride. ‘Queer’ is an example of a word undergoing this process. For decades ‘queer’ was used solely as a derogatory adjective for gays and lesbians, but in the 1980s the term began to be used by gay and lesbian activists as a term of self-identification. Eventually, it came to be used as an umbrella term that included gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgendered people. Nevertheless, a sizable percentage of people to whom this term might apply still hold ‘queer’ to be a hateful insult, and its use by heterosexuals is often considered offensive. Similarly, other reclaimed words are usually offensive to the in-group when used by outsiders, so extreme caution must be taken concerning their use when one is not a member of the group.

Pansexual

A person who is sexually attracted to all or many gender expressions.

Pangendered

A person whose gender identity is comprised of all or many gender expressions.

Metrosexual

First used in 1994 by British journalist Mark Simpson, who coined the term to refer to an urban, heterosexual male with a strong aesthetic sense who spends a great deal of time and money on his appearance and lifestyle. This term can be perceived as derogatory because it reinforces stereotypes that all gay men are fashion-conscious and materialistic.

Male Les•bi•an

A male-bodied person who identifies as a lesbian. This differs from a heterosexual male in that a male lesbian is primarily attracted to other lesbian, bisexual or queer identified people. May sometimes identify as gender variant, or as a female/woman.